Coming Out And Ready For Something New | Misfits Salon Episode 4
Coming Out And Ready For Something New | Misfits Salon Episode 4

It just got to the point
where I hated myself so much. My son is just this melting pot
of all the misfits of society. It’s my job to make them
feel like they belong, because they’re not alone. I’ve come out. I’m just ready for
something new and a change. My last year of school, I came out. I grew up thinking that that was,
like, a really negative thing, like, you don’t want to be gay. Just this thing that’s demonised
by completely everyone in school. When you’re young, the way that
everyone thinks about you matters. We were all getting the same
haircut that Wayne Rooney got and we were all
getting the same shoes. You don’t want to be the one person
that’s outlying with the group. It’s something that you just
don’t want anyone to know. I felt pretty shit. Eventually, I just kind of
grew up and realised that nobody really cares. You’ve just come out…
A year ago. ..a year ago. Mm-hm. Was it, like, a big come out
and everyone was shocked? It was like a, “Aw, OK.” Really? Yeah. I was
so disappointed, honestly. The way I came out, I was sitting
on the couch and I mustered up the courage, I just watched
a coming out video on YouTube. I was like, “You know what?
Just do it.” And so, I sat her down and
I was like, “Mum, I’m gay.” And I was absolutely kind of,
like, “OK, I’m gay.” And she was just sitting there,
she was like, “Oh, right, OK. “You got me scared there,
I was thinking you had “some sort of disease.” And I was expecting this big
massive pay off and she’d be like, “Aw, love you either way,” and
so on, but she just kind of said, “All right, OK.” You’re on this, like,
starting point of who you are… ..I guess. Basically. Yeah. This was like the perfect time,
on the cusp of adulthood. I think it’d be great time
to just be like, “I’m Andrew and this is me.” Sexuality is actually
so entwined with your identity. So, when someone’s coming out,
often it’s like this explosion of personality comes out. I just, kind of, act like
the ideal gay best friend. Sometimes I, kind of,
play to that archetype, because I’m just scared
if I’m not that, that people won’t want me around. It’s such a beautiful opportunity
for me to try and help guide them into their first identity. I would just, kind of, like to be
confident enough and comfortable enough to just be myself
and have people like me for that. What sort of vibe do you want
to have with your whole look today? Any words you’d use? Cool. Yeah. Edgy. OK. I’m like obsessed with K—Pop,
right now. So, like, I see BTS and all them and I’m just like,
“Guys, they are so cool.” Like, with my hair, I don’t
actually know what I want. Something like a cool,
bold blue or orange or red, something really cool. I’d like to work on some
cooler colours on you today. So I’m thinking of working on
more sort of blues and greys and that sort of stuff, which I
think will work really beautifully. I’m going to give
you more creative. I’m going to give you cooler, but you’re going to give me a bit of
bravery and a bit of faith. Right. Yeah? Yes.
Right, give me a deal, then. That didn’t work out. I’ve experimented a lot with
my hair, like, next level a lot. It was down here, it was here,
it was shaved at one side. I feel like I look like
one of the Backstreet Boys mixed with Fred from Scooby-Doo. What we’re going to
do today with your hair is, we’re going to be working with
a real tight sides and back. So, it’s going to be literally
bald around the edges here. I’ve never had my hair, like,
bald before. Oh, really? There’s a first time for everything.
It’s going to be subtle. I just know that I want something. Just something different. So, has your hair always been
the same, darling? No, it’s changed A LOT. It used to be all the way down,
like, to the middle of my back. To the middle of your back? How long
did that take you, to grow that? Four years. All right. What brought that on? The whole reason
I kind of grew it out was to kind of balance out my body. Yeah. So, I was, like, a lot,
I was really fat. What’s really fat, to you? Massive. Like, I was like a size 18
in women’s, so it was… OK. ..quite big. I’ve always been kind of
larger than everyone else. Like, I was that one
fat kid in class. Do you know
when you’re in primary school there’s always, like, the one
fat kid? That was me. I just saw myself completely
filling up the mirror, when I looked in it. There was no kind of empty space. I mean, obviously there was,
but I couldn’t see it. And even when the weight
was starting to go, I never saw it leave. And when did you lose the weight? About…I don’t know, when I was, like, 15ih it all,
kind of, fell off. How? I just, kind of,
cut myself back quite a lot. More than I probably should’ve. Don’t know what I was thinking. It just got to the point
where I hated myself so much, that that’s what I felt I needed to. Like, I still look at myself
the now and just… ..still see myself
absolutely massive. The purpose of this process
is to help you love what you look at in the mirror and that’s what
I hope I can do for you today. Talk me through your look
and your current wardrobe. It’s usually a hoodie, a pair of
jeans or a pair of joggies. OK. Like, oversized?
Yes, very oversized. Just at that point in my life
where I’m, like, the happiest I’ve been so far. Don’t want to
look like I’m being dragged down by these massive clothes,
that I wore when I was 16st. It sounds to me like
you’re dressing for old Andrew. Like you’re hiding the body that
you weren’t proud of previously. I feel ready to, kind of, get
a look that’s a bit more…me. So, dream look. Tell me who Andrew is,
who Andrew wants to be. Right, so dream look, think
sitting in the coffee shop, with a wee coffee, with their
laptop open, doing their uni work. Then people look at them and they
go, “They’re at the art school.” OK. “They’re doing fashion.” People would see me and be like,
“Oh, he could be in a boy band, if he wanted.”
Or, “He’s a fashion student. “You can tell he’s
a fashion student.” That’s the look that I want. So, we’re thinking cool.
Real cool, real edgy. You get me. I do get you. I think I really do.
I think that the new you, we need to get this mind, body,
soul together, to make sure that we can dress your new body
and to show it off, but in a way that still makes you
feel comfortable. How do you fell about that? Love it. I own so much make-up, but I have, like, no idea
how to actually do a day look. I would love to be able to do, like,
a “no make-up” make-up look. Mm-hm. Cos when I do make-up, it’s
either all on or none of it’s on, and I would like to be able
to wear at least some of it. Yeah. So, you want that dewy skin,
like, gloss skin. Yeah. Some, a wee bit of guyliner. Mm-hm. What I’m going to do… ..use my fingers and what this does
is warms up the foundation while I apply it,
so it applies a lot smoother. So, it’s like butter, basically. Your face is the toast. Yum, yum. I would love to, like, just learn
how to do, like, a natural, like, guyliner make-up look for men that
doesn’t look like it’s been stolen from the set of, like,
the Rocky Horror Picture Show or something like that. So, have you ever tried
a guyliner before? Um, tried eyeliner before, but it’s always been, like, “Whoa!” Massive, I’ve never tried, like,
a just subtle… Nice and subtle. ..yeah. I’m going to give you
that artsy look. Drink coffee. Drink your coffee. Soy milk, oat milk.
Pumpkin spice latte. I’m the highest I’ve ever been, when it comes to confidence
and so on, and I would just, kind of, like to look that way. This transformation, it’s going
to get him on the road to a new him. I would just want, kind of, the way I look to reflect,
kind of, how I’m feeling. I just want Andrew to look in
that mirror and like what he sees. And I don’t know how long it’s
been since that’s been the case. All right, Andrew, you did
the big thing, you came out. But now this is about
finding your new identity. So, open your eyes, my love. Feeling great right now. I’ve just came out and
I’ve just lost loads of weight. This is, like, a great start,
to start forming my new look around. I want to send Andrew on this road of being proud that he might not
know exactly who he needs to be right now. But he’s glad that he’s
on the journey. I love it. It just feels like
it’s a great new chapter of my life.

77 thoughts on “Coming Out And Ready For Something New | Misfits Salon Episode 4”

  1. Chris P says:

    Bar the clothes he looked far cuter before.

  2. lewandowska says:

    I wish we had a place like this here in America but most salons here are pretty drab and boring.

  3. Sim says:

    he's good looking. the slick back look was killer. bowl cut nsm.

  4. Chicot The Jester says:

    What an unusual subject for BBC 3 to cover. Homosexuality gets so little coverage on this channel! 😂😂😂

  5. Satyasya Satyasya says:

    I'm sorry, but the slightly more natural looking "before" is so much better. The "after" is some walking cliche of a young gay guy. Silly color hair, piercings, odd clothes. Its just so bleh.
    But if he's happy, that's fine. I just think the "trying too hard to look different look" is a massive downgrade and among other young gay guys, he'd stand out even less, actually.

  6. Bilel Mahalli says:

    He looks rediculous hhhhhhh. What a joke

  7. 🧕🏽₲ɾɑղԵ𓃹 says:

    I hope one day Russian gays can too come out & not have to be abducted from their jobs & thrown in trunks for their sexual orientation.

  8. gmfitzg says:

    I’d do you. Come here in the US

  9. Hope Springseternal says:

    Gay, gay,gay people reduced to sodomites and the media is relentless bs.

  10. JETJOOBOY says:

    This does NOT include ALL the
    Misfits in society

  11. JETJOOBOY says:


  12. Brennen Wilson says:


  13. Debolina Raja says:

    Sorry but he definitely looks really good the way he naturally was…what happened later seemed unnecessary over the top by the stylists to grab attention..sorry but didnt like at all

  14. Anonymous says:

    NO WAY

  15. Hael Otny says:

    He looked way better before. He doesn't need that makeup, he's naturally handsome.
    And if he wants to get a date, he'll have less success now because most gay guys (myself included) would prefer his earlier masculine look to the current androgynous one.

  16. Marine Arsac says:

    He looks so goddamn cute!

  17. Rotten 5 says:

    What's with the Gay Jewish propaganda? The only way you can keep your homosexual culture alive is to social engineer the children.

  18. Daniel Gill says:

    OMG! The guy with dripping hair in the bus shelter at the start of the video was so much better looking! I’m not actually sure he really liked the make over! That look is so predictable!!

  19. Michael Sterling says:

    I’m proud to see a young Englishman embrace orthodonture

  20. Mitchell White says:

    What a beautiful young man that should be confident and expect the best..not the worst.

  21. Eloise Mankerty says:

    I loved his style before, looked really cool and kinda 90s

  22. Amy SK says:

    There a lot of comments saying he looked better before but that's not the point! These makeovers allow people to express a different part of themselves and if later on they themselves don't like it, they can change it back 🤷‍♀️ We're all born naked and the rest is drag. Appearance is just play it's not that serious. 💃

  23. Absalon Williams says:

    That's what's Poppin in the UK huh? Good 4 uuuuuuuuu

  24. Wladimir Albuja says:

    I want a salon like that close to mine so I can be happy of expending my money. I’m exploring the make up stage and goes very slow.

  25. Narendra Balapa says:

    Umm, wtf? He should've gone to a male salon at the very least, since men tend to know what's better for men and not a female salon where they basically stripped him off of all his masculinity and made him one of their own. Poor choice tbh.

  26. Ƨ says:

    they did him so dirty 😭😭😭

  27. ririandtobes says:

    He looks identical to Anwar Hadid 🥰

  28. kayyy says:

    He looked like a model before.

  29. saff 125 says:

    girl put striped jacket on striped trousers

  30. lola madelein says:

    he looks like a white anwar hadid wig !!

  31. Sisi O. says:

    He looked better before 😭😭

  32. Juan J Velásquez says:

    If he liked it, ok, that's great, that's what is important. But in my opinion, he looked 10x better before.

  33. The world Is now full of cry babies says:

    No…just no…was way better before.

  34. Heidi Hernandez says:

    You could tell he didn’t like it

  35. Shen says:

    I love his new wave vibe. I could see him in a long trench coat with hair like he had before, but cut a little more at an angle – like Leo DiCaprio in the 90s, some subtle lavender/silver/blues, boots, jeans, with like a cool t shirt or something 😍 he is so modelesque idk I get futuristic neo-city goth vibes

  36. Just LetMeFly says:

    In the beginning of the video I kept thinking he looks like a model. I loved the blonde hair and side bangs losely hanging over his forehead…I think they should've just made him ash blonde. But as long as he's happy! And the stylist looks rediculous and her outfits almost look child-like. Doesn't suit her at all in my opinion.

  37. Natalie Kassirer says:

    So… I've yet to see one of these that improved the person… :/

  38. zitronentee says:

    The 'before'-look is more mainstream and 'natural', yet no personality at all. Pretty normal for youngsters.
    The 'after'-look is … I guess, something new to him, who was probably in experimenting age. But for me, it's too much accessorizing and has no focus. It's still stereotyping,not much of an upgrade.

    I want to see the middleground to both of this style plus his personal style. Hopefully, he will outgrown this all.
    In the end, change is good. Change is a progress.

  39. Basil In the Forest says:

    He looks so much more like himself and that's beauty right there!

  40. Alejandro Avalos says:

    I thought he said he wanted a grown up look🤷🏻‍♂️

  41. Bernadette Devereux says:

    No,no,no.It's AWFUL.He was so much better looking before

  42. Erin J says:

    Seen all these. Sorry but they all need to be sacked

  43. Just dreams says:

    Where is his accent from ?

  44. Just dreams says:

    I ABSOLUTELY LOVE Sophia's voice ❤

  45. Marya Swell says:

    So much better before! Looks like a caricature after. He was gorgeous before. He will find his own way

  46. Bekah says:

    first he looked like Gigi Hadids brother Anwar. After he looks like Jeremy Scott the Moschino fashion designer. He looks great before and after. ☺

  47. sherly holmes says:

    Is that…Draco Malfoy but hotter

  48. sherly holmes says:

    What did they do to him

  49. Evie Frances says:

    This program is so great- I’ve always hated the programs where they remove peoples’ individuality and personal style (like the one with ‘Pod’

  50. Tracer Loenan says:

    The change was shocking. It makes it hard to form an immediate opinion.. Saved the video to watch again in a week. Then I feel I could give a more honest opinion. I do find people with both looks attractive and I am always ready for change.

  51. Fluffycat11 says:

    I think the problem is that there was no consideration for what actually suited his face and colouring. I was reading the comments before the reveal thinking they must be harsh and it can't really be that bad, but I must say, the finished look was like an overgrown child whose mum still cuts his hair with a bowl. The colours washed him, out, the shaved scalp made his hair look too small for his face, the clothes were 'trendy' not art student or kpop cool and the makeup was clearly done by someone with no (or at least no idea how to do flattering) experience of masculine makeup. Most importantly, I don't think the finished look was at all what he was describing or what he had envisioned and you could see that when he first saw himself. I've watched a few of these and have noticed that the hairdresser is quite skilled and does a pretty good job (although I'm wondering who the male hairdresser is in this one and perhaps that's why it doesn't match the other ones), the makeup artist has no idea how to do makeup that suits different people and the 'stylist' is just not good at making people look good. Usually the haircut saves it but in this one, it just didn't so the whole thing seemed worse

  52. Sues Anna says:

    He is a gayby. I don’t want to have kids myself but I love gaybys. Seeing the first steps walking in this world is so cute.

  53. Rimjob Bob says:

    I am not a fan of the hair. But happy for him.

  54. Tay Aitken says:

    He just need to mess up that hair with perhaps a wee bit of product and it would look 1000% better. It would have been nicer a bit brighter blue also, imo.

  55. Connie Bee says:

    He is a really cute young guy. When he was chatting with the wardrobe gal his hair was combed back. Way better than bangs. Sorry dear. Comb it back darling.

  56. Hannah Grace Richie says:

    He looks like an e-boi

  57. Danielle K says:

    Loves BTS woohoo🙃😂

  58. Fan Person says:

    Him before is pretty close to what i want to be tbh

  59. Julia Nursten says:

    One word only – Awful

  60. Avid Swam says:

    This should be watched in reverse.

  61. Joanna (Lady Gray) says:

    Oh an ARMY! JHoooooooooooope

  62. Rose says:

    Oh god. The hair. That is so so awful. The poor man.

  63. Fella says:

    4:05 I got what I never knew I needed …. I'm in love

  64. Edita Salkic says:

    Am i the only one that thought it this was anwar hadid? (Before)

  65. Luther Burbank says:

    lol wow I truly feel sorry for this guy

  66. Wander Otter says:

    He looked cooler before lol.

  67. Iliana Chavez says:

    I’m loving this show 🤘🧡💜💙🖤

  68. sandra g says:

    Aw, bless his mum for her support. ❤️

  69. Megan says:

    “I was a size 18 in women’s, pretty big.”

    Me, a size 18 in women🌚

  70. Nancee ElDeeb says:

    He looked like a model before. Just like Anwer Hadid.

  71. Alessa Levan says:

    They made him look like every other UK gay. They should stick to the ladies makeovers. More interesting and they can achieve a better transformation.

  72. Lucy B says:

    Smh at all these comments about him looking better before or not liking the new look. He wanted blue. He wanted edgy. He is under no obligation to have HIS style fit YOUR definition of what would be most ‘conventionally attractive’. If he wants to experiment with his look then I say good for him! It’s how he feels inside that matters, not your opinion of how many people would sleep with him. He’s got amazing bone structure and a lovely smile, I think he looks great both before and after because he can carry off anything.

    Damn society.

  73. Kai K says:

    they tried to make him look like a kpop star but it just…doesn't really quite work, does it? The hair doesn't suit his face and the fake septum is awkwardly sized.

  74. Xavi Sánchez says:

    Oh hell no! The clothes ok, the make up too, the hair… Hell no!!.

  75. Kawaiifatstonerchick 1011001 says:

    ARMY! lol

  76. It's me Danny says:

    He literally looks like a 10 year old fat kid trying to look cool….I'm sorry but he looked way better before!!

  77. Dan Dan says:

    Lol just wanted to watch a makeover to find out he is an Army 😆

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